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hey psych2goers and welcome back to
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another video
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thank you all so much for the love and
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support you've given us psycho's mission
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is to make psychology more accessible to
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everyone
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so let's begin don't we all hope to
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understand one another better
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how can you get a good idea of what kind
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of person your new friend or
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acquaintance is
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if psychology has taught us anything
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it's that people are complicated
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there is no quick and easy way to assess
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a person's true character and
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motivations
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but there are a few tips and tricks that
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can help you gain better insight into
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someone's character
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the people around us can give a lot of
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information about themselves without
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even knowing it
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they express it in the little things
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that they do all you have to do
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is observe carefully so here are seven
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small things
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that can tell you a lot about a person
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one
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their body language from posture to
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facial expressions to hand gestures
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researchers believe that our body
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language and non-verbal cues make up to
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over 65 percent
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of all communication interpreting
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someone's body language can be a
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powerful tool
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in helping you to understand their
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personality attitudes and feelings
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for example facial cues like smiling
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convey happiness
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burrowed brows denote confusion and
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biting at your lip means you're worried
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anxious or distressed clenched fists
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indicate
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anger or frustration crossed arms are a
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sign of defensiveness
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and fidgeting can mean boredom
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impatience or
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deep thought learning how to better read
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someone else's body language can go a
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long way in helping you understand what
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someone is thinking
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even if they don't say a word to you two
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their social media accounts a person's
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profile and the way they present
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themselves
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online can reveal a lot about their
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personality
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traits and interests including the way
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in which they want to be seen
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their social media presence shows how
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connected they want to be
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while their privacy setting shows how
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much they're comfortable sharing with
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people
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the pictures they post or share tell you
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a lot about what they like
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whether it's going out with friends
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eating good food or watching movies
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the things they tweet about can give you
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a lot of insight into their likes
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dislikes and opinions as well three
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the way they dress another great way you
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can learn a lot about a person without
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ever
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even talking to them is by observing the
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way they dress for example
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those who dress casually are often laid
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back and easygoing people
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who value comfort over style and don't
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care much for impressing others
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whereas those who like to wear colorful
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clothes and fun patterns
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are usually creative and artistic types
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who want to express themselves through
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their fashion sense
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floral prints and dresses convey
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femininity and grace
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while active wear and sporty clothes
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reveal confidence and dependability
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and formal attire exudes sophistication
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and assertiveness 4. their taste in
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music
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for many of us our musical taste is an
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integral part
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of our personal identity we're drawn to
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certain genres and artists that speak to
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us on an emotional level
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we connect with music that helps us
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better understand ourselves
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getting to look at someone's personal
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playlist can inform you about their
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inner world
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those who mostly listen to jazz soul and
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r b tend to be
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sensitive poetic passionate and deep
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while people who like acoustic and folk
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music are usually thoughtful
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calm and warm and those who enjoy pop
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and dance music are often
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upbeat fun outgoing and cheerful
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5. how they treat strangers american
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author dave berry once said
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a person who is nice to you but rude to
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the waiter is not a nice person
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the way in which you treat people of
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lower social status than you or
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people who have nothing to offer you is
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a telling aspect of your character
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when someone is rude or disrespectful to
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a stranger like a barista
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or a server it shows that they're
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superficial and over privileged
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it can signify that they're only
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charming our kind when they have
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something to gain from the other person
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first featured in the book unwritten
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rules of management
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this is known as the waiter rule and
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it's something you can use to gauge how
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caring
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considerate and empathetic a person
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truly is
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6. how they make eye contact appropriate
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eye contact is a good way for someone to
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signal that they're paying attention to
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you
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and that they're interested in what
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you're saying but those who often break
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eye contact
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may be nervous uncomfortable or
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distracted
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shy people also have trouble looking
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someone in the eye for too long
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especially if they find the other person
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attractive or intimidating
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dilated pupils indicate desire
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rapid or excessive blinking conveys
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distress
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narrowed eyes show that the other person
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may be threatened or suspicious of you
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and number seven the shopping cart
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theory finally we have
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the shopping cart theory as the name
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suggests
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the shopping cart theory puts in
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position that whether or not we choose
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to return the shopping cart once you're
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done with it
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is the ultimate litmus test for your
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capacity for
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self-governance returning the shopping
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cart is easy
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and convenient but not all together
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necessary
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it's recognized as the proper thing to
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do
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and yet there are no dire consequences
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waiting for us if we don't perform this
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task
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there's nothing to gain from returning
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your shopping cart so the only reason
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someone would do so
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is because they know it's simply the
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right thing to do to return the cart
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is to do so out of nothing more than
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decency
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kindness and common courtesy from their
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thoughts
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and feelings to their true character
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it's important that we know how to
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assess people so we can make better
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decisions about them
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these little psychology hacks can come
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in handy in the dating pool
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making friends job hiring and can help
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you make a good first impression
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did you learn something new about how to
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read and understand others in this video
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