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SpeakerPsychologist Carl Jung said the most dangerous psychological mistake is the projection of the shadow onto others. This is the root of almost all conflicts.
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SpeakerAccording to Psych Central, projection happens when someone places their own beliefs or emotions onto someone else.
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SpeakerIt often happens unconsciously and sometimes people project their own insecurities onto others.
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SpeakerWhen someone projects, you might internalize their hurtful comments and believe them to be true.
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SpeakerBut if you can easily recognize when someone is projecting, it can help you become more resilient and take their negative comments less personally.
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SpeakerLet's talk about three signs someone is projecting their insecurities on to you. Let's go.
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SpeakerRepression.
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SpeakerScience has had a huge impact in revealing the significant role repression plays in projection.
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SpeakerIn 1997, Leonard Newman and colleagues conducted a study where they asked people which negative traits they found most threatening,
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Speakerthen observed how participants reacted to these traits in themselves and others.
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SpeakerThey found that people who repressed their emotions were more likely to deny having the threatening trait themselves, but they were quick to say someone else had the trait.
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SpeakerRepressors also avoided talking about the traits they found most threatening. Interesting.
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SpeakerSo how can you tell whether someone is raising a legitimate concern or projecting a repressed insecurity onto you?
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SpeakerThe next time you think someone might be projecting, ask yourself, do they have this trait themselves and try hard to deny or repress it?
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SpeakerHave they talked about how much they hate this trait before or have a strong reaction to it?
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SpeakerIf you answered yes, this might be a projection rather than a legitimate concern.
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SpeakerReaction.
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SpeakerHave you ever had a crush on someone and didn't want anyone to know?
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SpeakerIf anyone ever asked you if you had a crush on the person what do you do? Do you overreact?
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SpeakerDo you pretend this person is so annoying and disgusting that you couldn't possibly like them?
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SpeakerWell, projection kind of works the same way.
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SpeakerAccording to National Certified Counselor Tanya Peterson, overreaction is a major sign of projection.
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SpeakerIf someone is projecting their insecurities onto you, you might notice that they get extremely angry
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Speakeror upset with you even when there's no conflict and you don't understand why.
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SpeakerLike all psychological defense mechanisms, projection is a response to uncomfortable emotions.
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SpeakerThese feelings can cause someone to blow up at something that might seem minor to you.
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SpeakerIf someone has an emotional reaction that is disproportionate to the situation, they may be projecting this insecurity onto you.
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SpeakerIt may also be a good idea to remove yourself from the situation too.
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SpeakerThe blame game.
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SpeakerImagine your partner accuses you of cheating even though they have no evidence, and you've never even thought of being unfaithful to them.
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SpeakerWhy would they do this? Psychology Today states that this is a common example of projection.
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SpeakerIn romantic relationships, we might falsely blame our partner for cheating when we have the desire to cheat ourselves.
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SpeakerAccording to MyTherapist, people often project blame onto others in order to feel better about their own problems.
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SpeakerHave you ever been in a situation where someone starts blaming you out of nowhere for something that you didn't do?
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SpeakerThis could be a sign that they're projecting an insecurity onto you.
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SpeakerWhen you realize that someone is projecting, you recognize that what they're saying has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
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SpeakerKnowing this can help these outbursts sting a bit less and help you navigate this type of interaction.
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SpeakerNow, we want to hear from you, Psych2Goers. Has anyone ever projected onto you?
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SpeakerBe honest, have you projected on to someone else before?
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SpeakerWe hope that after watching this video, you'll be able to identify the signs that someone is projecting their insecurities onto you.
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SpeakerShare your thoughts and experiences in the comments below and don't forget to like and subscribe.
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SpeakerUntil next time.